1) During the day what are you wearing? most likely jeans, black or tan pants. Look around. All the other ladies and the men are all wearing them as well. Blending in and being androgynous works in the work place, but not on dates! He does not want a co-worker or a thin feminine guy for a date, he most likely wants a women who looks comfortable being one.

This of course pissed her off. Why should women have to dress feminine for men. They should like you for you.

So then the second question came up.
2) Visualize the man you find most attractive in the world. Now imagine him in a pink lacy dress. Still find him as attractive? Would you find him more attractive if society said it was ok for him to wear a pink lacy dress, make-up and heels? What if he wore a polo over it? no? Then why think he should find you as or more attractive when you wear clothes similar to what he does every day?
3) Feel entitled to wearing pants? Its a date, and many, MANY people think dates are all about them. Dressing more feminine may show him your comfortable and confident in your skin (or not, some guys do not notice), but dressing for yourself instead of him often smacks more of selfishness and self-righteousness than interest in him.

So she tried out wearing a skirt on the next few dates (and following a bit of the boss lady articles advice) and got second dates right away (she is now engaged).

Most good guys will like you for you, but also generally want someone who likes being feminine (just like you could like a guy who wears pink dresses for his personality, but it might be a turn off in early dating).

That said, boots are awesome!

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Leslie: I hear you about the boots! I don’t feel comfortable in heels. But boot, mmmm.

America: First-date dancing shoes… are for dancing, right? Wow, I’m impressed by anyone who can do the Tango.

Judy: I love the idea of wearing something you made!… And the no-shaving-before-the-date. Good one! Cracked me up.

yet more often I am going for black leather jeans. in lieu of the skirt. While they are comfortably sexy and can be worn year round they allow a girl not to wax or shave before that first date. It’s a trick learned. If your legs are not silky smooth you will not have sex him him on the first date….it actually works for me!

and never a hat till later on….

I do have a Black Watch tartan kilt. I doubt that I’d wear it on a first date, though. It might be too intimidating for my date to have a 6′ 4″ guy wearing a nicer “skirt” — woo-hoo.!

So I’ll probably just put on my black and white Punisher t-shirt and a pair of 501′s socal style…my kids like it. 8-)P

I just found a gorgeous skirt that reminded me of the pink one above.

Check it out:

http://www.joebrowns.co.uk/products/images/large/ls055.jpg

Do you like it?

x

Cara

I needed my energy to, you know, be natural …

It was never the wrong thing to wear, and as I recall, one time it was the really perfect thing to wear. Because now when I see it in my closet, I have some amazing memories.