Comments on: Are you having sex with your ex?

By: Danica

Danica — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 15:12:30 +0000

I am in the middle of a divorce from my soon-to-be Ex Husband. I have been feeling extreme pain because I am the cause of the split. I cheated on him. I don’t know what came over me last night, but I went over to the house we shared and one thing led to another. I still love him and I do want him happy. He’s a good father to our three daughters and like a fool, I cheated on him when he had been hurt like this before. The sex was wonderful and every emotion we both had just came out into one giant fireball of passion. I felt like one of the women my husband writes about in his Erotic Romance short stories. I felt safe,wanted and desired. I want to go back for more but I don’t want sex to be what brings us back together if we can be back together. I am not sure what do. Should I move on or fight for him?

By: His ex

His ex — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 19:07:17 +0000

So I was with my kiddos dad for 4 years. We agreed it was better to not have him be apart of her life if myself and my child would be moving far away, and he wouldn’t see her except few and far between. She’s 2, and we wanted to wait until she could understand to have him come in and out. (Don’t judge me, its our decision and I don’t mind what people say, it’s our choice.)
We had sex last night after not speaking in 3 months. We both agree that it feels sparkly or fireworkish as stupid as it sounds, when were near each other. It’s a situation where we would have to not tell everyone about us because of our past. People tore us apart before (family). Both families hate the other and him or me. It seems like because were so different it’s wrong. I know it’s the whole don’t Care what others think thing but I would have to give up my family because they don’t want us together. He’s still the person I think I could love forever and have loved for 4 years. I don’t know what on earth to do I’m having fun and he makes me feel fantastic. We haven’t decided for him to see my child or not so he sees her through pictures and when she sleeps. It’s killing him and me and neither of us know what to do.
He’s my biggest want and I’m his, I don’t know if it’s what I should do anymore.

By: Secret

Secret — Fri, 26 Nov 2010 04:39:23 +0000

I’m still in love with my ex. He got married this past Jan, and I thought I was cool with it. Come to find out I was/am VERY uncomfortable to the point were I asked him NOT to wear his ring around me. Let me start from the begining.
We have to kids together and just didn’t make it. We both had ALOT of growing to do. Recently he came to visit, without his wife. Him and their child came and stay with our kids and myself. The first night after the kids were asleep, we went right to it as if we haven’t been apart for the past 3+ years. I’ve always love him and feel it’s the same both ways. He’s always expressed his love for me and she knows. There’s this bond we have that just connects us. We went strong at it over several nights. I’m such a slut for going there with him. How cam I break myself from him? I can NEVER have a real relationship if we continue. He is a wonderful provider for us although he has this wife. Then to add the sex! It has gotten complicated. Help!!

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 05:13:35 +0000

Sending you a big hug @ana!

By: ana

ana — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 23:17:51 +0000

i had sex with my ex cause very deep on the inside i thought this would bring him back to me. it didn’t, he disappeared the next day, blocked me on every internet account and doesn’t talk to me anymore. worst part is we didn’t even use a condom, i mean, he didn’t “finish” inside of me, but there’s still a slight possibility that i’m pregnant. i feel very stupid about that and i sure hope next time i’m strong enough not to let it happen again, at least i learned something.

By: Melina Diaz

Melina Diaz — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 12:05:00 +0000

I am a lesbian and dated this woman for 5 months. I was madly in love with her and she broke it off because she felt I was too judgemental and mean to her. Nonetheless, she felt I was a good friend and wanted to keep me in her life. We communicated constantly as we haven’t broken up. She was highly aware how distraught I was about the brake up and wanted to be back with her. Two months later, she invited me over her house as her friend and at that time, I was accepting of the friendship, but with hopes we would get back together. Later on the day, she approached me for sex and we din’t stop having sex until the next day. However, she said this was only sex and we were not getting back together. I was heart broken again, but continue the communication with her for two more weeks. We flirted with each other about how wonderdful it was being together again and all the emotions that came up. I asked her again and she said she would not get back together with me. At that point, I asked her to not contact me again as I can’t be her friend and I need to move on with my life. She did stop contacting me, but I haven’t been able to stop loving her and I still contact her with not reply from her. What can I do? should I just be her friend with benefits?

By: Not Telling

Not Telling — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 20:24:33 +0000

I slept with my younger son’s dad Dec. 13th, 2007, I let him move back into the house March 1, 2008. He broke up with me to go back to another ex Sept. 5, 2008. I failed, after 2 years apart, I let my hormones get the best of me and take me back down a dead end street. I always has a really special affection for him and I always wanted things to work out between us, but to this day it never has. And after taking him back three times, I don’t feel like it ever will. So I had to give him up like an addict giving up drugs. But it really is the best think for me and our son, since he doesn’t seem to want to be a part of the child’s life unless he can get to me. I can’t live like that. He calls to “check on me” once in a blue moon. It feels like he is checking to see if he can come have sex with me again, he rarely asks about our son when he calls unless I bring it up. In fact, the last time I talked to him he asked about our son without being prompted and I was suspicious of him, because he usually doesn’t do that. I can’t lie though, the sex with him was incredible, but the rest of our relationship was not good. So though parts of me (mostly below the belt) still want to have sex with him, I just keep looking to meet someone new, who will be a great partner, parent and lover. *sigh* I deserve more than great sex and my son deserves a good father figure in his life.

By: JACQUI

JACQUI — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 08:52:04 +0000

hi i am very confused but feel very stupid ! MY EX left me and my daughter when she was 4 months old we had been together 4 years anyway he ended up (2 months later) with his ex (they were together 3 years previous) anyway we get on well we still did things together as a “family” which people found bizzare i never got to know the girlfriend because did not want to i still love him always have done crazy i know …. anyway whislt he was with her we had sex just the one night and nothing as ever happen since ….. yes i would stupidly phone him drunk sometimes and tell him how i feel and he would confuse me and say he still loves me to but not inlove with me ???? and occasionally i would go out and he would be in the sme pub and his mates would flirt with me and he would hate it ??? confused again lol i have not been with =anyone or even a kiss for 4 years (well aprat from that 1 night of sex with my ex) right recently he has split up with his girlfriend and lives back at his mates …. i kinda hoped and even though i new it was “wrong” wanted to make it work or even have sex ha !!! but he told me today that we are friends i never say never but i can not see anything happen between us sorry ….. i always thought he was my soul mate as corny as it sounds i always thought i new him better then anyone and that he still loved me now i feel stupis confused angry hurt and lonely…. dont really know were to go from here … dont get me wrong i make myself sound quite weak and vunerable i am not i am quite a strong person and love my daughter more then anyone she is my life ..i am just hurting very confused and the thought of havin sex with someone else petrfies me ha !!

By: misty gurl

misty gurl — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 05:42:25 +0000

can you pls help me…well my husband and I separated 2months ago and our marriage was very awful bcoz he has another woman. he told me that he dont love me and move on then I take revenge, I reported him to his office and got terminated bcoz of fake documents. after 2months without communication he suddenly emailed me and telling me that he need help bcoz he has no job and telling me that he was wrong bcoz he still loves me..unfortunately I helped him..was I a fool?? now we are planning to have sex.. I want to but my mind keeps telling me that he just only using me..he want us back but i said no but I told him we could have sex without a relationship.. I really don’t know what to do??we have two children and my family is very angry with him. my mind and my heart are opposing..I really dont know what to do???I really dont trust him I want to believe but I cant.and he promise me that in his new job he will get us from my parents and live happily but I said NO..im going crazy

By: cynthia

cynthia — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 21:41:37 +0000

I’ve read all the comments and im in the same boat. I have a baby with my ex and recently i had dropped her off @ her dads house and out of no where he told me he wanted to have sex i said no. He told me to move on and that he did not love me anymore. A week later he did the samething and i gave in and we had sex. It was the best sex i’ve had in a long time but my gut feeling was that i felt he wanted me the way he looked @ me and his touches. I did not feel like it was sex but love making. I’m confused our baby is only 9months old and i still love him. I wish things can work out. I say go with what you feel and not regret a single moment to all you single parents out there live life and be happy:)