My divorce isn’t quite final, so I’ve been putting off returning to the dating scene.

But after reading your book (LOVE it!) and now this, I think I am going to start shopping for a first date skirt. I love wearing skirts anyway — dress ‘em up, dress ‘em down, comfy, what’s not to love?!?. I’ll post a picture when I find one. And I’ll be all ready when first date time rolls around.

Look forward to hearing from others!

Most of my first-dates are from online dating, and it’s a chat over coffee, at which point a skirt feels slightly overdone. I usually go for flattering jeans and a nice shirt.

I haven’t actually had any dates nice enough to wear skirts for yet. My skirts are languishing in my closet. (sight)

Oh. My. Gosh.

That pictured skirt is so absolutely beautiful that I think I might just wear it to my next first date.

Without a shirt on. Or bra for that matter (in an ideal world).

It just shines on its own!

PS: I am a closet nudist so don’t be alarmed.

x

Cara

Oops, forgot to answer your question. My first date outfit is this pair of Jeans from Miss Sixty that I have had for about 5 years now. They are a perfect fit.

I don’t want to wear them to my next first date though. I want to be all girly and wear a skirt or a dress. I would probably go for a skirt, as a dress is well…I don’t know…too girly.

Hi Liz,

Looking forward to seeing you buy; please do post a picture after you’ve made the purchase.

No first date outfit-BUT, I did go out a buy myself a nice black bra from Victoria’s Secret to wear on dates. This was purely for me—just knowing that I was ready to date again and proud of it! The black bra made me feel extremely sexy and womanly!

I’ve only *had* first dates so you’d think I’d have an outfit by now. Mostly I’m a jeans and v-neck sweater kind of a gal. As long as I’m rocking my tall black boots underneath, I feel good

I am a long time lurker. I haven’t ready your book yet, as I just got a copy this weekend via the fabulous Solo Mother but am looking forward to diving into it now!

I am a social tango dancer/ instructor so alot of my “work” clothes are great first date clothes (though some are a little too extreme). I am a skirt girl so I will wear a skirt, no matter the occasion. I have soooo many skirts that can be dressed up or down so unless it is an active date like hiking (which I probably wouldn’t do as a first) I have something that fits the mood. I have more trouble with shoes since I am loathe to wear my nearly $200/pair dance shoes out and about. Besides, showing up on a first date in cheetah print stilettos might convey the wrong message

Truth be told…I’m not really looking too deeply at what the woman is wearing on a first date…well…unless its something that’s suppose to get my attention. Generally I’m drawn to the woman face/eyes/lips…I’m sure there’s some subconscious evolutionary reason for this…attraction queues maybe? At any rate, as the date goes on I will start to notice the finer details…”wow, her ears are big” or “she really has boney hands…they look like bird claws” or “hmm…I should have ordered the salmon”. It’s my opinion, woman dress for themselves and other women. As I said earlier, the only time I take noticed of a womans outfit is if it’s highlighting/enhancing some particular asset. ;b

When I was doing a lot of online “meets,” I had a no-brainer outfit that I knew would always: be clean, be pressed, fit great, work day/night — in other words, it didn’t require a lot of energy on my part.

I needed my energy to, you know, be natural …

It was never the wrong thing to wear, and as I recall, one time it was the really perfect thing to wear. Because now when I see it in my closet, I have some amazing memories.

Hi ladies,

I just found a gorgeous skirt that reminded me of the pink one above.

Check it out:

http://www.joebrowns.co.uk/products/images/large/ls055.jpg

Do you like it?

x

Cara

Love it Cara! Beautiful! I want one!

Dear Rachel,

I do have a Black Watch tartan kilt. I doubt that I’d wear it on a first date, though. It might be too intimidating for my date to have a 6′ 4″ guy wearing a nicer “skirt” — woo-hoo.!

So I’ll probably just put on my black and white Punisher t-shirt and a pair of 501’s socal style…my kids like it. 8-)P

boots,
long skinny scarf (knit by me for possible conversation, and fun wrapping and teasingly unwrapping)
hoop earrings,
an arm full of bracelet’s (a great distraction)
and in between it all is usually
a short skirt
tank top with some type of over top (sheer, blazer, too long unbuttoned blouse) but they all are the same length of the skirt

yet more often I am going for black leather jeans. in lieu of the skirt. While they are comfortably sexy and can be worn year round they allow a girl not to wax or shave before that first date. It’s a trick learned. If your legs are not silky smooth you will not have sex him him on the first date….it actually works for me!

and never a hat till later on….

Dan: Thanks for pointing this out… it’s not really what a woman wears.

Leslie: I hear you about the boots! I don’t feel comfortable in heels. But boot, mmmm.

America: First-date dancing shoes… are for dancing, right? Wow, I’m impressed by anyone who can do the Tango.

Judy: I love the idea of wearing something you made!… And the no-shaving-before-the-date. Good one! Cracked me up.