Comments on: So, did the postman ring twice? http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/ Remarried and Remodeling Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:21:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Single Dad Seeking Single Mom Seeking Lunch « Dad’s House http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-1510 Single Dad Seeking Single Mom Seeking Lunch « Dad’s House Mon, 14 Apr 2008 13:59:10 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-1510 [...] synchronicity would have it, Rachel happened to post something about online dating on the same day I made my first online dating post, the one where I sadly admit to being an [...] [...] synchronicity would have it, Rachel happened to post something about online dating on the same day I made my first online dating post, the one where I sadly admit to being an [...]

]]> By: Andrea http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-1020 Andrea Fri, 29 Feb 2008 16:41:17 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-1020 Hi. Just found your site. It's been lovely to read it. Online dating--egads. Just went out on a date with a few guys, had another date set up, found out he'd re-written his dating profile, dumped him. It's a whole new 21st century way of doing things, I guess; but I figure if you're rewriting your profile it's a pretty good hint you're not actually interested. But yeah, I am dating online. I'm really just looking for a way to get out of the house and have fun on weekends when my daughter is with her Dad and I have no other plans, and if I find someone I click with, that's a bonus. I'm mostly on lavalife. Hi. Just found your site. It’s been lovely to read it.

Online dating–egads. Just went out on a date with a few guys, had another date set up, found out he’d re-written his dating profile, dumped him. It’s a whole new 21st century way of doing things, I guess; but I figure if you’re rewriting your profile it’s a pretty good hint you’re not actually interested.

But yeah, I am dating online. I’m really just looking for a way to get out of the house and have fun on weekends when my daughter is with her Dad and I have no other plans, and if I find someone I click with, that’s a bonus.

I’m mostly on lavalife.

]]> By: teresa http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-979 teresa Fri, 22 Feb 2008 16:42:24 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-979 Like several of you, I am the sole caretaker for my kids. We've been on our own for more than 8 years now and in those years I've managed to squeeze in a few dates. My kids are old enough now (10 and 15) to babysit themselves, but I used to do a lot of lunch dates. Or when the kids would go see their grandparents for a weekend, I'd cram in four or five activities during that time (including a couple of dates, a couple of friend 'dates'). It isn't easy and I haven't found the One, but I'm not really looking for a husband yet. I like being on my own an awful lot. Oh! and I use the online personals for a local alternative weekly paper. It's been pretty good so far; I've met at least a dozen and dated three for a short time each. Like several of you, I am the sole caretaker for my kids. We’ve been on our own for more than 8 years now and in those years I’ve managed to squeeze in a few dates.

My kids are old enough now (10 and 15) to babysit themselves, but I used to do a lot of lunch dates.

Or when the kids would go see their grandparents for a weekend, I’d cram in four or five activities during that time (including a couple of dates, a couple of friend ‘dates’).

It isn’t easy and I haven’t found the One, but I’m not really looking for a husband yet. I like being on my own an awful lot.

Oh! and I use the online personals for a local alternative weekly paper. It’s been pretty good so far; I’ve met at least a dozen and dated three for a short time each.

]]> By: butrflymom http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-978 butrflymom Fri, 22 Feb 2008 15:57:56 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-978 To Michelle, I am also a single mom in your situation. My daughter and I have been on our own for almost 8 years now. Her dad moved across country and is not really involved much......just the child support. In a lot of ways I feel really lucky for that. But it has made dating much more difficult than my other single mom friends who have had shared cusody. Friends and family have helped out some, but like you said, not consistently, which I think leaves a heavy level of guilt (at least for me). Unfortunately, I don't have much successful advice as I'm still single and not currently in the dating pool. this is more of a commiserating post. I got tired of dating the same guy reincarnated and so have gone back to school. I am now so completely busy I don't know how to fit in a date and not sure if I want to at this time. But I know others who have found the "one" so hang in there, wait until you're ready, and then start again. I've already done that a couple of times and feel when the time is right I'll jump in again. I keep hoping I might meet someone in person before I need to go back to the match.com. To Michelle,

I am also a single mom in your situation. My daughter and I have been on our own for almost 8 years now. Her dad moved across country and is not really involved much……just the child support. In a lot of ways I feel really lucky for that. But it has made dating much more difficult than my other single mom friends who have had shared cusody. Friends and family have helped out some, but like you said, not consistently, which I think leaves a heavy level of guilt (at least for me). Unfortunately, I don’t have much successful advice as I’m still single and not currently in the dating pool. this is more of a commiserating post. I got tired of dating the same guy reincarnated and so have gone back to school. I am now so completely busy I don’t know how to fit in a date and not sure if I want to at this time.

But I know others who have found the “one” so hang in there, wait until you’re ready, and then start again. I’ve already done that a couple of times and feel when the time is right I’ll jump in again. I keep hoping I might meet someone in person before I need to go back to the match.com.

]]> By: ladyfox http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-962 ladyfox Mon, 18 Feb 2008 06:48:02 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-962 Gosh I just finish my first ever date from an online service. I am trying yahoo personals.....I got a lot of military men for some reson. Anyways it didn't go well.....I didn't get a good vibe on the phone, but since I just wanted 2 have a date I went. Guess what he kept talking n talking...he not only chews tobacco (in order to quit smoking) when I clearly stated no smoking lol.i need 2 be clearer...and kept spitting it in a bottle on the way home. Well ....now how do I tell him ...he mentioned he wanted 2 see me again. What do I say .....no thanks or what? Gosh I just finish my first ever date from an online service. I am trying yahoo personals…..I got a lot of military men for some reson. Anyways it didn’t go well…..I didn’t get a good vibe on the phone, but since I just wanted 2 have a date I went. Guess what he kept talking n talking…he not only chews tobacco (in order to quit smoking) when I clearly stated no smoking lol.i need 2 be clearer…and kept spitting it in a bottle on the way home. Well ….now how do I tell him …he mentioned he wanted 2 see me again. What do I say …..no thanks or what?

]]> By: elvagreen http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-959 elvagreen Mon, 18 Feb 2008 02:15:00 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-959 I choose singleparentloving.com and find my man nearby :) I choose singleparentloving.com and find my man nearby :)

]]> By: jeanie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-958 jeanie Mon, 18 Feb 2008 01:04:14 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-958 I tried RSVP.com.au - an Australian site. The amount of times I put my head up and then pulled it back in again as it was too scary! Finally, put my head up again 20 months ago with a different profile and met my Mr Wonderful - it won't happen for everyone and there are a lot of players out there, but there is no way we would have found each other without it. I tried RSVP.com.au – an Australian site. The amount of times I put my head up and then pulled it back in again as it was too scary!

Finally, put my head up again 20 months ago with a different profile and met my Mr Wonderful – it won’t happen for everyone and there are a lot of players out there, but there is no way we would have found each other without it.

]]> By: zenseeker http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-957 zenseeker Mon, 18 Feb 2008 00:25:41 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-957 Over the years, I too have done the on again-off again dance with match.com. It all comes down to one thing.... WORK Work as in actively answering emails, winks, actively searching, being open, taking a chance and yes, weeding through the 'not quite Mr. Rights.' Okay so I guess it's more than one thing. However, sometimes just perusing profiles on Match makes me feel good about dating again. I say go for it. Maybe it'll be extra motiviation for the rest of us. : ) Over the years, I too have done the on again-off again dance with match.com. It all comes down to one thing…. WORK Work as in actively answering emails, winks, actively searching, being open, taking a chance and yes, weeding through the ‘not quite Mr. Rights.’ Okay so I guess it’s more than one thing. However, sometimes just perusing profiles on Match makes me feel good about dating again. I say go for it. Maybe it’ll be extra motiviation for the rest of us. : )

]]> By: Michelle http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-954 Michelle Sun, 17 Feb 2008 08:29:12 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-954 I have couple of thoughts...well maybe more but I'll start with a few. The excessive talking thing....well I've been dating one of those. At first I thought maybe it was just a new, nervous jitters type of thing. Now I know it's just him. It was refreshing at first since the alternative of silence on the first few dates certainly wouldn't have had me coming back for more. Then it became annoying to the point I'd have to interrupt him just to speak my own thoughts. I couldn't get a word in edgewise. At times, it's more of a two way conversation but mostly it's just too much about him. Regardless, there's no passion in it for me. I don't feel the desire to see him or talk to him more than an infrequent basis so I guess it's time to move on. It's too bad since he has the morals and values of someone I'd like to have in my life. If I stuck with it, I'm afraid I'd still be settling. I've tried eHarmony and Match and honestly I don't have much time or energy to keep doing it. I haven't much luck online thus far but I'm at a loss to how to meet guys otherwise. I'm a full time single mom and my daughter's father is not involved at all. One of my biggest challenges is the stress of getting someone to watch my girl so I can date. Unlike the single fathers I've met online, I don't have a dedicated weekend, or week, or day that I don't have my daughter that I can anticipate having on my own to pursue this dating thing. My family and friends are great to help out but not on a regular basis and nor would I expect that from them. Am I just making excuses or is dating just not in the cards for me? How do other full custody single parents manage this dating business? I have couple of thoughts…well maybe more but I’ll start with a few. The excessive talking thing….well I’ve been dating one of those. At first I thought maybe it was just a new, nervous jitters type of thing. Now I know it’s just him. It was refreshing at first since the alternative of silence on the first few dates certainly wouldn’t have had me coming back for more. Then it became annoying to the point I’d have to interrupt him just to speak my own thoughts. I couldn’t get a word in edgewise. At times, it’s more of a two way conversation but mostly it’s just too much about him. Regardless, there’s no passion in it for me. I don’t feel the desire to see him or talk to him more than an infrequent basis so I guess it’s time to move on. It’s too bad since he has the morals and values of someone I’d like to have in my life. If I stuck with it, I’m afraid I’d still be settling.

I’ve tried eHarmony and Match and honestly I don’t have much time or energy to keep doing it. I haven’t much luck online thus far but I’m at a loss to how to meet guys otherwise. I’m a full time single mom and my daughter’s father is not involved at all. One of my biggest challenges is the stress of getting someone to watch my girl so I can date. Unlike the single fathers I’ve met online, I don’t have a dedicated weekend, or week, or day that I don’t have my daughter that I can anticipate having on my own to pursue this dating thing. My family and friends are great to help out but not on a regular basis and nor would I expect that from them.

Am I just making excuses or is dating just not in the cards for me?

How do other full custody single parents manage this dating business?

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/comment-page-1/#comment-949 singlemomseeking Sun, 17 Feb 2008 03:12:48 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/02/15/so-did-the-postman-ring-twice/#comment-949 Thanks for all the super info!! I'm thinking JDate... It's not that I feel exclusive about Jewish men. It's this: when I did try Jdate ages ago, then men I met seemed so much more genuine... than Match.com. How about Nerve.com? Has anyone tried that one? Thanks for all the super info!!

I’m thinking JDate… It’s not that I feel exclusive about Jewish men. It’s this: when I did try Jdate ages ago, then men I met seemed so much more genuine… than Match.com.

How about Nerve.com? Has anyone tried that one?

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