Comments on: Should I ask my postman out for Valentine’s Day? http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/ Remarried and Remodeling Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:21:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Sunny http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-16975 Sunny Thu, 10 Feb 2011 17:14:56 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-16975 I am in a similar situation. Other girls in the office tell me the mail man is totally flirting with me. I have been so oblivious to this cause I have been out of the dating scene for a long time. I have always thought he was cute and a nice guy. We have engaged in casual conversation. I don't know if he is single or not, however I do enjoy speaking with him. His time is limited so we don't have time to talk much. I am sensing he wants to ask me something but he just hasn't yet. Maybe because he is not sure if I am single. I have never been one to ask a man out. I am from the old school. The other ladies in my office are younger and with it, so they can see what I don't see. How should I approach this. I would love to give him a valentines invited. But... It is Thursday and I don't have much time left. Also, I would be embarrassed to initiate something and then find out he is married or has a special someone in his life. The girls always mention that after he leaves, he always does a double take and turns and looks at me at least twice whenever he knows I am not looking. Any suggestions? This is all new to me. Thanks. I am in a similar situation. Other girls in the office tell me the mail man is totally flirting with me. I have been so oblivious to this cause I have been out of the dating scene for a long time. I have always thought he was cute and a nice guy. We have engaged in casual conversation. I don’t know if he is single or not, however I do enjoy speaking with him. His time is limited so we don’t have time to talk much. I am sensing he wants to ask me something but he just hasn’t yet. Maybe because he is not sure if I am single. I have never been one to ask a man out. I am from the old school. The other ladies in my office are younger and with it, so they can see what I don’t see. How should I approach this. I would love to give him a valentines invited. But… It is Thursday and I don’t have much time left. Also, I would be embarrassed to initiate something and then find out he is married or has a special someone in his life.

The girls always mention that after he leaves, he always does a double take and turns and looks at me at least twice whenever he knows I am not looking. Any suggestions? This is all new to me.

Thanks.

]]> By: Single Mom Seeking… » Archive » I passed the postman a sealed envelope… http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-807 Single Mom Seeking… » Archive » I passed the postman a sealed envelope… Fri, 01 Feb 2008 15:58:00 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-807 [...] reading all of your enthusiastic comments here, I decided to go for [...] [...] reading all of your enthusiastic comments here, I decided to go for [...]

]]> By: Ms Single Mama http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-806 Ms Single Mama Fri, 01 Feb 2008 13:58:24 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-806 Wow Susan! A holiday...ha! LOL. Maybe Single Mama Day - in honor of all of us single mamas- now that I would vote for! Wow Susan! A holiday…ha! LOL. Maybe Single Mama Day – in honor of all of us single mamas- now that I would vote for!

]]> By: Susan http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-803 Susan Fri, 01 Feb 2008 01:20:23 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-803 Ms. Single Mama, I salute you! Outside of "asking someone out" while online dating, I've never had the guts to do that. Sometimes I get so horribly shy I can barely look a guy in the eye. You deserve a holiday named after you! :) Ms. Single Mama, I salute you! Outside of “asking someone out” while online dating, I’ve never had the guts to do that. Sometimes I get so horribly shy I can barely look a guy in the eye. You deserve a holiday named after you! :)

]]> By: Crazy Computer Dad http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-801 Crazy Computer Dad Thu, 31 Jan 2008 21:29:32 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-801 I'm glad to see I'm not the only one that gets tongue tied when talking to someone I'm attracted to. Flattery will get you every where, and there is nothing more flattering to a guy than when a woman expresses an interest in him. I am sure that women love to have an interest shown in them, even if they are not interested back. :-) but be nice because this guy handles your mail. I'm a little extra paranoid than most folks because of what I do though. 8-| I’m glad to see I’m not the only one that gets tongue tied when talking to someone I’m attracted to.

Flattery will get you every where, and there is nothing more flattering to a guy than when a woman expresses an interest in him. I am sure that women love to have an interest shown in them, even if they are not interested back.

:-) but be nice because this guy handles your mail. I’m a little extra paranoid than most folks because of what I do though. 8-|

]]> By: Ms Single Mama http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-799 Ms Single Mama Thu, 31 Jan 2008 19:24:02 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-799 Just had to add some evidence...am I serious about approaching men out of the blue? Absolutely. Here are some case studies: 1. At a restaurant. Saw a cute cook behind an open kitchen. I knew the manager and asked him to introduce me. He did. We talked and I offered to show him around the city (he had just moved from Canada). We got married! Sure the relationship didn't turn out but I sure got the man. 2. At a laundry mat. Cute guy doing laundry. Asked him to pop over for a drink at a nearby bar between loads. He did. We dated. 3. At a bar. (This has happened a million times). See cute guy. Spark conversation then ask him out. Leave him with my # only! Don't exchange numbers this leaves it in his hands to call you - totally intimidates them and you'll soon find out if he likes you or if he's brave enough to call. 4. Mutual friend. Friend talking to cute guy. Make eye contact with guy while I say hi to my friend. Introductions are made. Later that week - ask friend for his number. Call him, leave message asking him out for coffee. He calls back and of course, we go out. Ummm....there's more, but I'm tired of typing. Really ladies - I'm serious - there's no time to waste. We are single moms. We have to take matters into our own hands. And men just absolutely LOVE being asked out. Think about it -less work for them - they all like that. Men. Sheesh. Like putty in our hands. Ha! Just had to add some evidence…am I serious about approaching men out of the blue? Absolutely. Here are some case studies:

1. At a restaurant. Saw a cute cook behind an open kitchen. I knew the manager and asked him to introduce me. He did. We talked and I offered to show him around the city (he had just moved from Canada). We got married! Sure the relationship didn’t turn out but I sure got the man.

2. At a laundry mat. Cute guy doing laundry. Asked him to pop over for a drink at a nearby bar between loads. He did. We dated.

3. At a bar. (This has happened a million times). See cute guy. Spark conversation then ask him out. Leave him with my # only! Don’t exchange numbers this leaves it in his hands to call you – totally intimidates them and you’ll soon find out if he likes you or if he’s brave enough to call.

4. Mutual friend. Friend talking to cute guy. Make eye contact with guy while I say hi to my friend. Introductions are made. Later that week – ask friend for his number. Call him, leave message asking him out for coffee. He calls back and of course, we go out.

Ummm….there’s more, but I’m tired of typing. Really ladies – I’m serious – there’s no time to waste. We are single moms. We have to take matters into our own hands. And men just absolutely LOVE being asked out. Think about it -less work for them – they all like that. Men. Sheesh. Like putty in our hands. Ha!

]]> By: Ms Single Mama http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-798 Ms Single Mama Thu, 31 Jan 2008 19:16:31 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-798 WOW!!! Here's the thing - asking guys out is an art form. And a very, very scary one at that. But I'm telling you...once you do it for the first time and get over that hurdle - you'll be hooked. And here - we clearly have a shoe in. Meaning, when you ask him out he's definitely going to say yes. So - in the pick up line - no specifics - a note, yes, with an invitation to "call me." Remember - the best part about picking up a man is that it illustrates confidence and gives you the upper hand. They are so wowed by you and your confidence that you immediately become a million times sexier. Trust me. Do it! Never fails. Besides - adrenaline rushes are nice little wake ups for the heart and soul. WOW!!! Here’s the thing – asking guys out is an art form. And a very, very scary one at that. But I’m telling you…once you do it for the first time and get over that hurdle – you’ll be hooked. And here – we clearly have a shoe in. Meaning, when you ask him out he’s definitely going to say yes. So – in the pick up line – no specifics – a note, yes, with an invitation to “call me.”

Remember – the best part about picking up a man is that it illustrates confidence and gives you the upper hand. They are so wowed by you and your confidence that you immediately become a million times sexier. Trust me. Do it! Never fails. Besides – adrenaline rushes are nice little wake ups for the heart and soul.

]]> By: Legal Editor Mom http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-796 Legal Editor Mom Thu, 31 Jan 2008 17:22:21 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-796 DITTO! GO FOR IT! Slipping him a note is a great idea. He could be just harmlessly flirting, but if he responds favorably to your note, bingo! You've made progress, and he'll probably appreciate your making the first move. Wishing you good fortune here...by the way, I think I mentioned that my ex has been flirting and hinting at getting back together, but I have my eye on a young, handsome boy toy! ;-) DITTO! GO FOR IT!

Slipping him a note is a great idea. He could be just harmlessly flirting, but if he responds favorably to your note, bingo! You’ve made progress, and he’ll probably appreciate your making the first move.

Wishing you good fortune here…by the way, I think I mentioned that my ex has been flirting and hinting at getting back together, but I have my eye on a young, handsome boy toy! ;-)

]]> By: Susan http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-794 Susan Thu, 31 Jan 2008 15:23:35 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-794 Ohmigod, ohmigod, Rachel, you have to ask him out. Maybe you could even write him a little note and hand it to him when you pick up your mail next time. You know, special delivery! Wait, I see Jenny is as brilliant as I am and suggested the same. Do it, do it, do it!! (And you do have striking, beautiful eyes. Work it.! Ohmigod, ohmigod, Rachel, you have to ask him out. Maybe you could even write him a little note and hand it to him when you pick up your mail next time. You know, special delivery!

Wait, I see Jenny is as brilliant as I am and suggested the same. Do it, do it, do it!!

(And you do have striking, beautiful eyes. Work it.!

]]> By: Leslie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/comment-page-1/#comment-793 Leslie Thu, 31 Jan 2008 14:26:22 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/30/should-i-ask-my-postman-out-for-valentines-day/#comment-793 aw Rachel you're so cute, I think you should ask him out! All sorts of postal related innuendos are coming to mind but at least ask the guy something :P aw Rachel you’re so cute, I think you should ask him out! All sorts of postal related innuendos are coming to mind but at least ask the guy something :P

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