Comments on: If you want to date again, what’s holding you back?

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 05:49:12 +0000

Hi there,

I live in Vancouver Canada and the men here are incredibly shy. I went to the States last summer and was asked out at the airport! I have consistently hung out at Starbucks, try to make small chat in elevators, smile and make eye contact whenever possible. I’m told I’m attractive. My guy friends can’t believe I’m single. I haven’t been asked out since I went south last summer.

What is the deal?

By: JUDY

JUDY — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 05:46:44 +0000

My great friend, a married man, always reminds me that if I really wanted to be dating or in a relationship, I would be. And I have to admit, he’s right although I try to blame it on time, children, age, body image and everything else, it comes down to what I want and the deliberate choices I make to avoid the scene…or at least avoid the viable scene

By: Dada

Dada — Sun, 17 Feb 2008 00:25:11 +0000

I’m a 46 yo man with 2 daughters, 6 & almost 4. I cram a 40 hr work week in between 3pm fri and 11pm sun (i’m an RN). While I used to be so confident and cocky in my younger years, I find myself struggling with body image issues, time allotment for someone else, and rejection anxiety. You gals aren’t the only ones dealing with these issues. By the way, jiggly butts rock!

By: Andrea

Andrea — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 22:15:18 +0000

Single parent dating should be a fun experience, buy some gorgeous lingerie, put on the fake tan and go on lots and lots of dates.

Only when you feel comfortable you should introduce your new partner to your child as a new friend. Your child will be able to relate to this easier. After all, it is important that your child understands you need to have friends too.

By: Tess

Tess — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 03:45:54 +0000

Thank you Crazy Computer Dad !!!! I live with my 30 something daughter, a single Mom of 4 ages 1-12 and we just moved. She needs to meet new people her age with no pressure.

By: Leslie

Leslie — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 05:23:59 +0000

I thought it was timely that I just got a new Vicky’s catalogue in the mail

I’ll second that Jenny, I’m just too stingy with my free time and whether I want to risk free time on someone new or cherished friends…This is also likely why I’m coming up on 2 years alone

By: Lexi's Mom

Lexi's Mom — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:14:44 +0000

Jenny,
Great point. That’s my next problem for when I DO meet Mr. Right. My free time is spent with my daughter, 99.9%, and I’m not even sure that I’m willing to give much of that up, even if I do have childcare. What man is going to settle for being 2nd all the time and deal with the limited amounts of time that I can give him?

By: Jenny

Jenny — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 11:46:28 +0000

I have my children 24/7 how can I make a relationship work when I have so little time to give to another person? I am not able to jump up and go away on weekends anymore. Not sure how to handle.

By: Hanie

Hanie — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 11:17:56 +0000

I m not short of men interested in the dating scene. Its just that I feel I have so much past baggages that I still need to address to. Trust is one thing, and I start questioning every single intention that come my way. On top of that, my teenager is absolutely critical of my male friends.
Oh yeah, the stretch mark = self conciousness. I didnt realised men didnt notice them…

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Mon, 07 Jan 2008 15:13:02 +0000

Computer Dad,

Thanks so much for showing us “the other side.”
See mamas, men are often so absorbed in worrying about their own “parts,” they don’t even see yours. Amazing, huh?

P.S. A single mom reader just wrote to me off-the-blog to say, “Please thank that man who made the latest entry on your blog—it’s so nice to hear from men now and then, especially decent ones! I’m going to look into one of the social groups he mentioned…”