It was put best this way: this is not a family reunion or a BBQ – it is a wedding. It is a party that 2 people are throwing for THEIR union and to celebrate their marriage.

There will be loud music and guests who will be drinking…some very heavily! What parents would want to bring their kids to such an event where the children will be bored and will be around drunk people who want to party and celebrate their friends marriage?

To think that someone does not love your children because they’re not invited to your wedding is a little absurd – in fact, I think just the opposite…they’re looking out for your children and for their safety!

Weddings aren’t necessarily about family – its about the couple. It’s not about your day, it’s about theirs and maybe they do not want little kids who get bored easily to be at the wedding. You should know this, kids get bored, their attention span doesn’t last long, so why are you selfishly dragging your kid out to a party that will be full of alcohol and lots of adults and will last several hours?

My mother and father had no qualms about leaving us at home if we weren’t invited “you’ll be bored” she would say and we’d agree because we found adult parties boring, being dragged out for hours on end when we’d much rather stay at home.

If you are having a Catholic wedding MASS, as opposed to just a ceremony, you can’t ban children. The Mass, regardless if it is a Sunday Mass, wedding Mass, etc is a public event. Even the homeless off the street could come if they wanted to.

As for the kid thing, I respect that people may not want kids there. But like another person said, they also need to respect then that *I* won’t be going. Not out of spite, but out of impossibility.

I would totally understand if an adult declined my wedding invitation because they were unable to get a babysitter or didn’t want to leave their child at home, but to say that its rude to leave the kids out is quite overboard. Shouldn’t the couple getting married be able to enjoy their special day? If they don’t want kids at their wedding respect it, don’t take it personally since it isn’t about you or your child.

I am the mother of well-behaved children, but I do not take them to funerals or weddings even if they are invited. They are not old enough to fully grasp the importance of the event and they get bored. Gosh, I must me some kind of a monster! My kids will probably need years of therapy to work through the trauma of missing out on a few weddings. sheesh!