Comments on: Book give-away: single moms talk about wanting http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/ Remarried and Remodeling Tue, 08 May 2012 01:39:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Single Mom Seeking… » Archive » And the winners are… http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-870 Single Mom Seeking… » Archive » And the winners are… Thu, 07 Feb 2008 04:09:00 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-870 [...] I asked you what you desire (Single moms talk about wanting”) and Kelly, the first mama to respond, [...] [...] I asked you what you desire (Single moms talk about wanting”) and Kelly, the first mama to respond, [...]

]]> By: Single Mom Seeking… » Archive » I passed the postman a sealed envelope… http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-808 Single Mom Seeking… » Archive » I passed the postman a sealed envelope… Fri, 01 Feb 2008 15:58:42 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-808 [...] got my mail — no overflow — and used the automatic machine to get a stamp for my latest book winner. But I’d missed the last pick up up the day, and the mailbox was locked. I could hold onto [...] [...] got my mail — no overflow — and used the automatic machine to get a stamp for my latest book winner. But I’d missed the last pick up up the day, and the mailbox was locked. I could hold onto [...]

]]> By: MikeyNMom http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-741 MikeyNMom Fri, 25 Jan 2008 19:24:34 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-741 I would love to have a night off to myself and not feel guilty about enjoying little pleasures like that. I need my alone time too but since I am all My son has I feel guilty. I want that time for me and to learn that its ok. Not to metion a lil more money in my savings... P.s. being 22 is it ok for me to date different men.. or would that look bad on me being a mom..???? I would love to have a night off to myself and not feel guilty about enjoying little pleasures like that. I need my alone time too but since I am all My son has I feel guilty. I want that time for me and to learn that its ok. Not to metion a lil more money in my savings…

P.s. being 22 is it ok for me to date different men.. or would that look bad on me being a mom..????

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-723 singlemomseeking Wed, 23 Jan 2008 17:51:12 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-723 LEM, thanks for bringing up a real, genuine desire... for your daughter. I agree with VJ that it might be time to truly open yourself up to a community of good men. I'm not talking about romance. I don't know if your own father is nearby/involved, or if you have any brothers? Kelly: ha, good one!! Susan: you know I'm hanging onto the edge of my desk, waiting for the Big V details when the day comes. Butrfly mom: keep us up to date about any possible rendezvous. LEM, thanks for bringing up a real, genuine desire… for your daughter. I agree with VJ that it might be time to truly open yourself up to a community of good men. I’m not talking about romance. I don’t know if your own father is nearby/involved, or if you have any brothers?

Kelly: ha, good one!!

Susan: you know I’m hanging onto the edge of my desk, waiting for the Big V details when the day comes.

Butrfly mom: keep us up to date about any possible rendezvous.

]]> By: Legal Editor Mom http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-721 Legal Editor Mom Wed, 23 Jan 2008 13:29:41 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-721 Vj, Thanks for your comment. Actually many a divorced mom I know are happy that their exes stay away. It's easier for them, as it was for me. But now that he's back, I'd like for him to really be back and play an active role. Either that, or he could have stayed gone! As far as the community you recommend, we all ready have that. Not only is my child blessed with doting grandparents who cater to her every whim, but she also has a network of uncles who stepped in (at birth) to assist with the father-figure role. They lavish her with affection and attention. So we're definitely not waiting for him, only praying. ;-) Vj,
Thanks for your comment. Actually many a divorced mom I know are happy that their exes stay away. It’s easier for them, as it was for me. But now that he’s back, I’d like for him to really be back and play an active role. Either that, or he could have stayed gone!

As far as the community you recommend, we all ready have that. Not only is my child blessed with doting grandparents who cater to her every whim, but she also has a network of uncles who stepped in (at birth) to assist with the father-figure role. They lavish her with affection and attention. So we’re definitely not waiting for him, only praying. ;-)

]]> By: VJ http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-719 VJ Wed, 23 Jan 2008 02:11:43 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-719 I hear you LEM, but reading that while listening to Bluegrass gospel can make you cry for the injustice of it all. I think every divorced mom wants that in her life. I know many never come close to getting it either. I think creating your own 'beloved community' of friends and family is really the key here. Never wait for it, go out and get it. Cobble some together and stop waiting on deliverance from parties that are presently least likely to show up or recognize this need. Just a thought. But I always appreciate hearing from your experience. Cheers & Good Luck, 'VJ' I hear you LEM, but reading that while listening to Bluegrass gospel can make you cry for the injustice of it all. I think every divorced mom wants that in her life. I know many never come close to getting it either. I think creating your own ‘beloved community’ of friends and family is really the key here. Never wait for it, go out and get it. Cobble some together and stop waiting on deliverance from parties that are presently least likely to show up or recognize this need. Just a thought. But I always appreciate hearing from your experience. Cheers & Good Luck, ‘VJ’

]]> By: Legal Editor Mom http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-718 Legal Editor Mom Tue, 22 Jan 2008 23:47:48 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-718 I'm going to go in a different direction here, because while I will probably always want something, THIS is what I really want: I want my ex-husband to step up to the plate and be a father to our child. I want him to stop taking me for granted and assuming that because I’m a good mother that he doesn’t have to be a father. For once, I want him to realize that being a parent isn’t optional, and he can’t continue to waltz in and out of our daughter’s life when it’s convenient for him or attempt to see her only when he has “free time.” I want him to spend quality time with her, simply because he loves her and misses her and is thinking of her, rather than at my urging or because of a court order. I want him to live up to his seemingly good intentions, promises and offers, which in the past, have never amounted to a hill of beans. Since he’s made a return to her (and also my, to a certain point!) life, I want him to be her father, her male role model, and the most important man in her life, the one who she knows loves her, adores her, and will always be there for her, no matter what! (Considering who I'm dealing with, I am undoubtedly asking for too much, but after seeing our daughter's reaction to him, a girl can only hope.) I’m going to go in a different direction here, because while I will probably always want something, THIS is what I really want:

I want my ex-husband to step up to the plate and be a father to our child. I want him to stop taking me for granted and assuming that because I’m a good mother that he doesn’t have to be a father.

For once, I want him to realize that being a parent isn’t optional, and he can’t continue to waltz in and out of our daughter’s life when it’s convenient for him or attempt to see her only when he has “free time.” I want him to spend quality time with her, simply because he loves her and misses her and is thinking of her, rather than at my urging or because of a court order. I want him to live up to his seemingly good intentions, promises and offers, which in the past, have never amounted to a hill of beans.

Since he’s made a return to her (and also my, to a certain point!) life, I want him to be her father, her male role model, and the most important man in her life, the one who she knows loves her, adores her, and will always be there for her, no matter what! (Considering who I’m dealing with, I am undoubtedly asking for too much, but after seeing our daughter’s reaction to him, a girl can only hope.)

]]> By: butrflymom http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-717 butrflymom Tue, 22 Jan 2008 13:25:35 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-717 The first and the last on the list are tops on my list!! i would love a hot date for Valentines that would turn into a real romance. it's been so long since that happened i wonder if all memories are just a dream. A college acount for the kid would be great since the stock market seems to be taking us down. The first and the last on the list are tops on my list!!

i would love a hot date for Valentines that would turn into a real romance. it’s been so long since that happened i wonder if all memories are just a dream.

A college acount for the kid would be great since the stock market seems to be taking us down.

]]> By: Susan http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-715 Susan Tue, 22 Jan 2008 00:10:54 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-715 Definitely a yes to the first and the last questions on your list. (I'm fortunate to get a night off frequently enough and I have my own room.) Regarding the first, I DO want to go on a hot date for Valentine's Day. I recently went out with someone for the first time and, well, he didn't strike me as the overly passionate type but man our good-bye kiss took me by surprise in all the right ways! Who knows if we'll make it past the 2nd date (fortunately already scheduled), but I can't help but smile thinking naughty thoughts that maybe, just maybe I might get some hotness this February 14th! Then again, I try not to think too far in advance...and my lifetime Valentine hotness track record has been lukewarm at best. As for the savings account, you can never have too much extra dough! Definitely a yes to the first and the last questions on your list. (I’m fortunate to get a night off frequently enough and I have my own room.)

Regarding the first, I DO want to go on a hot date for Valentine’s Day. I recently went out with someone for the first time and, well, he didn’t strike me as the overly passionate type but man our good-bye kiss took me by surprise in all the right ways! Who knows if we’ll make it past the 2nd date (fortunately already scheduled), but I can’t help but smile thinking naughty thoughts that maybe, just maybe I might get some hotness this February 14th!

Then again, I try not to think too far in advance…and my lifetime Valentine hotness track record has been lukewarm at best.

As for the savings account, you can never have too much extra dough!

]]> By: Kelly http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/comment-page-1/#comment-714 Kelly Mon, 21 Jan 2008 21:26:58 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/01/21/desire-single-moms-talk-about-wanting/#comment-714 I want a quieter toy (ahem) so I don't have to worry about my daughter, who sleeps in the next room, asking me what that buzzing noise was. I want a quieter toy (ahem) so I don’t have to worry about my daughter, who sleeps in the next room, asking me what that buzzing noise was.

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