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Book give-away: single moms talk about wanting
And the winner of Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation, by Playgirl magazine columnist Jamye Waxman, is Amy, who wrote:
“Masturbation vs. making love is like comparing eating bag of chips to a full dinner. Both fix that urge of being hungry - but every now and then you really want the whole deal.”
Amy, please write to me offline so I can send you a copy of the book.
Single parents, you have another chance! This week, I’m giving away a copy of Desire: Women Write About Wanting, edited by Lisa Solod Warren.
“What do women want?” writes editor Warren on her website. “We want everything.”
In this collection of essays, Warren describes the intimacy she found only after leaving her first marriage. In “Still Horny After All These Years,” S.S. Fair drives home her point that sexual desire does not fade with age. “Desire has its own circulatory system,” she writes, and “as long as you’re upright and breathing, you’re riding its eternally recurring loop of lust and satiation.”
In another recent chat with Dr. Leah — author of the best selling The Complete Single Mother: Reassuring Answers to Your Most Challenging Concerns — we were talking about why single moms are the 24-karat, real stuff.
You are probably the kind of mother who puts her kids first. Lunches are set to go before bed. You wake up thinking about what to cook for dinner. You dole out goodnight kisses without a quota — and always find the energy to read just one more story. You pay the bills on time. You make sure that your kids’ homework is done on time — and done well. You have a savings account. You schedule dentist and doctor appointments.
If you have an ex-husband, you’re doing the best you can to manage whatever challenges he places in your path. In short, you’re working hard and smart at single parenting. You’ve got a system for running things at home at least until the next crisis, but you’re managing those so much better, too. (Or, maybe you always managed on your own?)
But let’s face it, somewhere buried down deeply, there’s a woman. Maybe you miss the touch and feel of a man. Maybe you fantasize about having your own space with a lock on the door. Maybe you long to take a steamy bubble bath — without interruptions.
Tell us what you desire:
Do you want to go on a hot date for Valentine’s Day?
Do you want a night off to do as you please?
Do you want a room of your own?
Do you want to have more money in your savings account?
Let us hear all about it!
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I want a quieter toy (ahem) so I don’t have to worry about my daughter, who sleeps in the next room, asking me what that buzzing noise was.
Definitely a yes to the first and the last questions on your list. (I’m fortunate to get a night off frequently enough and I have my own room.)
Regarding the first, I DO want to go on a hot date for Valentine’s Day. I recently went out with someone for the first time and, well, he didn’t strike me as the overly passionate type but man our good-bye kiss took me by surprise in all the right ways! Who knows if we’ll make it past the 2nd date (fortunately already scheduled), but I can’t help but smile thinking naughty thoughts that maybe, just maybe I might get some hotness this February 14th!
Then again, I try not to think too far in advance…and my lifetime Valentine hotness track record has been lukewarm at best.
As for the savings account, you can never have too much extra dough!
The first and the last on the list are tops on my list!!
i would love a hot date for Valentines that would turn into a real romance. it’s been so long since that happened i wonder if all memories are just a dream.
A college acount for the kid would be great since the stock market seems to be taking us down.
I’m going to go in a different direction here, because while I will probably always want something, THIS is what I really want:
I want my ex-husband to step up to the plate and be a father to our child. I want him to stop taking me for granted and assuming that because I’m a good mother that he doesn’t have to be a father.
For once, I want him to realize that being a parent isn’t optional, and he can’t continue to waltz in and out of our daughter’s life when it’s convenient for him or attempt to see her only when he has “free time.” I want him to spend quality time with her, simply because he loves her and misses her and is thinking of her, rather than at my urging or because of a court order. I want him to live up to his seemingly good intentions, promises and offers, which in the past, have never amounted to a hill of beans.
Since he’s made a return to her (and also my, to a certain point!) life, I want him to be her father, her male role model, and the most important man in her life, the one who she knows loves her, adores her, and will always be there for her, no matter what! (Considering who I’m dealing with, I am undoubtedly asking for too much, but after seeing our daughter’s reaction to him, a girl can only hope.)
I hear you LEM, but reading that while listening to Bluegrass gospel can make you cry for the injustice of it all. I think every divorced mom wants that in her life. I know many never come close to getting it either. I think creating your own ‘beloved community’ of friends and family is really the key here. Never wait for it, go out and get it. Cobble some together and stop waiting on deliverance from parties that are presently least likely to show up or recognize this need. Just a thought. But I always appreciate hearing from your experience. Cheers & Good Luck, ‘VJ’
Vj,
Thanks for your comment. Actually many a divorced mom I know are happy that their exes stay away. It’s easier for them, as it was for me. But now that he’s back, I’d like for him to really be back and play an active role. Either that, or he could have stayed gone!
As far as the community you recommend, we all ready have that. Not only is my child blessed with doting grandparents who cater to her every whim, but she also has a network of uncles who stepped in (at birth) to assist with the father-figure role. They lavish her with affection and attention. So we’re definitely not waiting for him, only praying.
LEM, thanks for bringing up a real, genuine desire… for your daughter. I agree with VJ that it might be time to truly open yourself up to a community of good men. I’m not talking about romance. I don’t know if your own father is nearby/involved, or if you have any brothers?
Kelly: ha, good one!!
Susan: you know I’m hanging onto the edge of my desk, waiting for the Big V details when the day comes.
Butrfly mom: keep us up to date about any possible rendezvous.
I would love to have a night off to myself and not feel guilty about enjoying little pleasures like that. I need my alone time too but since I am all My son has I feel guilty. I want that time for me and to learn that its ok. Not to metion a lil more money in my savings…
P.s. being 22 is it ok for me to date different men.. or would that look bad on me being a mom..????
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