Comments on: Recently divorced and driving his Porsche… http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/ Remarried and Remodeling Tue, 08 May 2012 01:39:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: its all about determination, and making yourself happy http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/comment-page-1/#comment-12698 its all about determination, and making yourself happy Sat, 26 Sep 2009 03:06:13 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/09/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/#comment-12698 If you aren't determined you wont get your financial freedom back - that simple. When I quit my marriage I had to start working which meant I had a lot less time for myself. I don't believe in taking "everything" just because the relationship didn't work though - remember you loved him at some point even if not now. If you aren’t determined you wont get your financial freedom back – that simple. When I quit my marriage I had to start working which meant I had a lot less time for myself. I don’t believe in taking “everything” just because the relationship didn’t work though – remember you loved him at some point even if not now.

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]]> By: Lexi's Mom http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/comment-page-1/#comment-495 Lexi's Mom Tue, 11 Dec 2007 16:05:16 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/09/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/#comment-495 Rach, I did notice, and I thank you for it! It's sooo much better. Look for more of my 2 cents on upcoming topics! ;-) Rach,
I did notice, and I thank you for it! It’s sooo much better. Look for more of my 2 cents on upcoming topics! ;-)

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/comment-page-1/#comment-494 singlemomseeking Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:49:15 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/09/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/#comment-494 Great advice mamas! Thank you. Here's to simple goals... now, I need to get back to paying the bills. Hey, Lexi's mom, did you notice that I changed the Comments Box to match the background... so it's easier to see when you type? That was for YOU, babe! Great advice mamas! Thank you. Here’s to simple goals… now, I need to get back to paying the bills.

Hey, Lexi’s mom, did you notice that I changed the Comments Box to match the background… so it’s easier to see when you type? That was for YOU, babe!

]]> By: Lexi's Mom http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/comment-page-1/#comment-493 Lexi's Mom Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:12:23 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/09/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/#comment-493 I always made more money than my ex, so like Susan, I had a minimal adjustment with one salary and all of the expenses alone. The matter was compounded by the fact that my ex couldn't seem to hold a job long enough to make regular child support payments. But I got by. Then, the unexpected happened. I lost my job. I was scared to death because while I was offered a decent severance, I knew it wouldn't carry us forever (especially with a mortgage and a car payment!) And while I am educated and marketable, it was still scary. Just as I signed up for unemployment and was planning my finances over the next several months, I got a job offer! Apart from two jobs I hastily applied for late one night online, I really hadn't begun my job search. It turned out that word got out at my previous company that I was displaced, and while the new position wasn't in my same field, it offered more money, the same benefits, and exposure to and experience with something new which surely would look good on my resume and expand my possibilities should this new career not work out. So while I wasn't off track for very long, I guess the moral of my story is to not lose faith. I've been a firm believer that when one door closes, another opens. Who knows, one day that may transcend into my love life, as well. ;-) I always made more money than my ex, so like Susan, I had a minimal adjustment with one salary and all of the expenses alone. The matter was compounded by the fact that my ex couldn’t seem to hold a job long enough to make regular child support payments. But I got by.

Then, the unexpected happened. I lost my job. I was scared to death because while I was offered a decent severance, I knew it wouldn’t carry us forever (especially with a mortgage and a car payment!) And while I am educated and marketable, it was still scary.

Just as I signed up for unemployment and was planning my finances over the next several months, I got a job offer! Apart from two jobs I hastily applied for late one night online, I really hadn’t begun my job search. It turned out that word got out at my previous company that I was displaced, and while the new position wasn’t in my same field, it offered more money, the same benefits, and exposure to and experience with something new which surely would look good on my resume and expand my possibilities should this new career not work out.

So while I wasn’t off track for very long, I guess the moral of my story is to not lose faith. I’ve been a firm believer that when one door closes, another opens. Who knows, one day that may transcend into my love life, as well. ;-)

]]> By: Dr. Leah http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/comment-page-1/#comment-487 Dr. Leah Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:03:50 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/09/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/#comment-487 Jenn, Every single mom has "been there" trying to do what must be done that minute. Sometimes I think we set our goals too high. Start with a simple goal like throwing out all of today's junk mail---today! Tell yourself that you will work on some "business" for ten minutes and give yourself permission to stop---this is a big incentive, especially if you hate this kind of job or the job brings back unwanted memories or feelings. Often, however, you get a certain momentum and you feel okay about working longer than ten minutes. Today is always the best day to start with even just the tiniest step to move your life ahead. Good luck! Jenn,

Every single mom has “been there” trying to do what must be done that minute.

Sometimes I think we set our goals too high.

Start with a simple goal like throwing out all of today’s junk mail—today!

Tell yourself that you will work on some “business” for ten minutes and give yourself permission to stop—this is a big incentive, especially if you hate this kind of job or the job brings back unwanted memories or feelings. Often, however, you get a certain momentum and you feel okay about working longer than ten minutes.

Today is always the best day to start with even just the tiniest step to move your life ahead.

Good luck!

]]> By: Jenn http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/comment-page-1/#comment-486 Jenn Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:14:42 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/09/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/#comment-486 You can get back on track? Ugh. It's the final mountain I've yet to climb, despite numerous attempts. I'll try to be organized, but then so much of the other stuff, the real, in-your-face-change-my-diaper-cook-me-food, stuff renders me telling myself, "Tomorrow" over and over again. You can get back on track?

Ugh. It’s the final mountain I’ve yet to climb, despite numerous attempts. I’ll try to be organized, but then so much of the other stuff, the real, in-your-face-change-my-diaper-cook-me-food, stuff renders me telling myself, “Tomorrow” over and over again.

]]> By: Susan http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/comment-page-1/#comment-484 Susan Mon, 10 Dec 2007 03:59:55 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/09/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/#comment-484 I was very fortunate to be working full time in a good paying job, so while I had to adjust to only having one salary and a few more expenses to deal with, I did ok. But I can't emphasize enough how much having a budget and sticking to it (at least the bottom line number!) helps. It is amazing how you can "lose" money and spend money on seemingly innocuous (and usually not very useful) things, or items for your kids that they don't need. I mostly use my debit card now; this is a good way to pay attention to what you are spending. If anyone is interested, I'd be happy to email you a budget template I created (actually with the ex when we were married). It is in excel and lists several different budgeting categories, which can be a starting point. There are also good workbooks you can find, and I'm sure here online. You can email me at susancourtad@aol.com. I was very fortunate to be working full time in a good paying job, so while I had to adjust to only having one salary and a few more expenses to deal with, I did ok. But I can’t emphasize enough how much having a budget and sticking to it (at least the bottom line number!) helps. It is amazing how you can “lose” money and spend money on seemingly innocuous (and usually not very useful) things, or items for your kids that they don’t need. I mostly use my debit card now; this is a good way to pay attention to what you are spending.

If anyone is interested, I’d be happy to email you a budget template I created (actually with the ex when we were married). It is in excel and lists several different budgeting categories, which can be a starting point. There are also good workbooks you can find, and I’m sure here online. You can email me at susancourtad@aol.com.

]]> By: Dr. Leah http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/comment-page-1/#comment-483 Dr. Leah Sun, 09 Dec 2007 23:28:25 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2007/12/09/recently-divorced-and-driving-his-porsche/#comment-483 Good for you, kb! Education is the ticket for up and out of lots of the money troubles single moms face. Stuff is just stuff. You do have a plan. You keep your kids the priority while moving your own life ahead by attending college. I am keeping a good thought for you and your kids. Good for you, kb!

Education is the ticket for up and out of lots of the money troubles single moms face.

Stuff is just stuff.

You do have a plan. You keep your kids the priority while moving your own life ahead by attending college.

I am keeping a good thought for you and your kids.

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