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Why 2008 will be the hottest for single moms
I’ve been doing some research for LifetimeTV about what makes single moms so hot, and nothing would bring me more joy than to climb on top of my little soap box today to tell you why.
But I’m kind of biased.
So, I’ve contacted a few experts — in order to ask them what makes single moms so “dateable.”
“Single moms are significantly more self-sufficient than other women I’ve dated,” says Jorge Fitz-Gibbon, a staff writer at The Journal News in White Plains, NY
Jorge frequently blogs about raising his a 10-year-old son in an amicable relationship with his ex. He also has a single-mom girlfriend with a 3-year-old son.
While he agrees that self-sufficiency “can intimidate some men,” Jorge says that he finds “it to be an attractive quality, and it makes for a more balanced relationship where both partners carry their own weight in significant ways. Besides, who wants a needy partner anyway, whether or not they’re parents?”
Single moms have “no time for games,” adds Peter Ehrlich, founder of Single Parent Love Life and a columnist at the Toronto Star.
“Games take time and when you’re a single parent, time is too valuable and precious,” says Peter.
Jorge agrees. “This is easily one of the qualities of a single mom that I find the most attractive,” he says. “One of the things I dreaded the most about dating again was the ‘game’ associated with it. It didn’t take long to figure out that the rules of the game didn’t really apply with most of the single moms I met.”
“Now, I don’t necessarily mean that in a sexual way,” Jorge adds. “I mean, I love a quick roll in the sack as much as the next guy. But it’s more about a directness when you ask for what you want, like what you expect from my companionship, what appeals to you or doesn’t, and all the way down to more mundane questions like what movie to rent for a rainy night indoors. It’s a sexy quality, and one I find lacking in most people in general.”
Of course, single moms like us love to play games… but we’ll stick with Twister and Monopoly, right?
Peter brings it all down the basics. “It’s primal. Single moms are child-bearers, and that’s very sexy. It’s so primitive: men love hips and asses.”
I’ll give single mom expert Ellie Slott Fisher– author of the soon-to-be-published Dating for Dads: The Single Father’s Guide to Dating Well Without Parenting Poorly (Bantam Dell, Jan. 2008) — the last word here:
“All I can say is… thank God men love hips and asses.”
What can you say?
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Tags: Children, Dating, Dating for Dads, Divorce, Ellie Slott Fisher, Jorge Fitz-Gibbon, Lifetime TV, Men, Online Dating, Peter Ehrlich, Sex, single dads, Single Moms, Single Parent Love Life, Single Parents, The Journal News, Toronto Star Discussion
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This is so funny because it’s just now dawning on me - single moms are hot! I have a few single mother friends and the men aren’t scared of dating us at all…most of them want to jump right in. During my first year as a single mom I thought it would send men running. Nope. I’ve realized being a single mom is actually an attribute, a striking and intriguing feature to myself that they find super sexy.
We are completely independent. We are strong. We are also loving mothers who can make some mean mac and cheese. We know what we want and we don’t put up with any games.
The key - as a dating single mother - is to assume this confidence. Having a child does not mean you have to settle - quite the opposite. It means you get to choose the best of the best. And they want you to choose them.
Ms. Single Mama, you said it all! Striking single mama indeed!
Single mom’s might think they are at a disadvantage in the dating scene, but this man thinks they have a lot to offer. Sure, they are self sufficient, but it’s more than that. Single mom’s are tough. They have to be. They have their act together. There is no wondering how they will act under pressure or if they turn into a bitch when stressed. They are stressed now.
With a single mom, a man gets the opportunity to see his date at her best and her worst early on in the relationship. It might scare off men who don’t want a real person, but that’s good because you want to get rid of them.
People are attracted to those who have focus in their life. How many times have you heard someone say, “I love that he is in to… “ Single mom’s have focus. They have a purpose. They have a life.
Guys always talk about how things change after the kids are born. Will she save time for you or are you just the sperm donor? Will she drop the pregnancy weight? Will she still want you in the sack? With a single mom, you don’t have to wonder.
SM’s are the ticket for a guy who wants to join the parent scene because SM’s already have it all worked out. What do the kids like to eat? What if they get sick? Is it safe to let them play outside alone? Don’t worry. She will show you.
I dated a single mom with amazing kids. I loved to watch her with the kids. Just as women give a man that loves animals bonus points, many men feel the same way about women who love their kids. My single mom girlfriend and me didn’t work out, but I’d date another SM anytime.
But I don’t see many SM’s on dating sites. You gals need to put yourselves out there. You have a lot to offer.