Dating
He doesn’t like being No. 2
Do you remember when I asked you if you’ve ever Googled your date? (Thanks for your honest comments!)
Well, Karen from Online Dating is back. (Yes, this is the woman wrote her entire dissertation at the University of Southern California on “Online Dating.”)
As you might remember, Karen’s sister is the single mom of two children. But she and the now-boyfriend initially got off to a rocky start, which Karen explains:
“During the first few months of their relationship, my sister’s boyfriend felt neglected. Even though he realized my sister’s children came first in her life, he told her that sometimes he felt like he was an ‘opening act’ for the main attraction.”
Of course, I wrote back to Karen right away: Say what? Your sister’s boyfriend felt neglected? Why? I mean, c’mon, it was just the start of their relationship?
But it’s not the first time I’ve heard this. It takes a really mature, solid man to be with a single mom. Jeff Mac said it well on his blog, Manslations:
“For a lot of guys, it probably scares the crap out of them, I’m guessing. (For example, just typing about it, here, alone in my apartment, I just peed a little.)”
Karen from Online Dating says that her sister’s boyfriend “can be extremely insecure at times, so this is probably why he felt that way.”
Nonetheless, she adds that the boyfriend “is probably one of the nicest guys you could ever meet and I am glad that he found a winner (my sister).”
Of course, when you’re a single mom, no man you’re dating seriously will be No. 1. That spot belongs to your kids. But what will he be?…Mommy’s little helper?
What do you think, mamas? (And men, you can chime in, too!) If you’ve been there, it’s time to speak up.
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Tags: boyfriend, Children, Dating, Jeff Mac, Kids, Manslations, mature, Men, No. 1, No. 2, Online Dating, Sex, single mom, Single Mom Dating, Single Parents, Support Discussion
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Since I divorced I dated a little and had a long term relationship that I just got out of. All of them had no children of their own.
The last guy even has worked with children for the last 10 years…still doesnt give him the ability to understand children from a parents point of view or to realize that he will always come second to my kid.
no.matter.what. For this reason I have vowed to myself never again to date anyone that doesn’t have kids of his own.
I’m sure there are enough single men out there who don’t have kids and are just great….but I am done with that….
Just another hidden benefit to being a single mom - only real men can handle us. The rest wimp away and we’re left with only the best! Just have to make sure we don’t let the wimps get to us. The other childless single women are stuck with trying to figure out who’s a jerk, who’s not and who can really handle life and children. I’m just always trying to look on the bright side. So far this has been a very bright side for me. Got rid of the jerks quickly and have finally found one that one might definitely call a prince. He’s even babysat for me so I could go out with the girls!!!!