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Who needs a man to have a baby?

mike-and-juliet-show.jpgToday, on the Mike and Juliet Show (Fox 5), Louise Sloan — the author of Knock Yourself Up – was on live with Glenn Sacks, the media commentator who has proclaimed that the “rise in out-of-wedlock births is bad news for America’s kids.”

Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately?), Mr. Sacks got cut off from the news clips online.

But in short, Mr. Sacks, whose group is called “Fathers And Families,” says — and I quote him directly — that we “should know better.”

He has said in print that Sloan’s approach to motherhood is a ‘disturbing’ phenomenon and is ‘bad news for America’s children’.

My message to Mr. Sacks is this: Why do you bash families like mine? C’mon, what’s the point? At the end of the day, when you’re tucked under the covers, does berating single moms really make you feel any better?

Do tell: What’s your message to Glenn Sacks?

P.S. I was psyched to watch the segment in order to hear Dr. Leah Klungness, author of The Complete Single Mother, who was scheduled to be on as the single mom expert, but in the pouring rain at 6 a.m. in New York, the TV’s car service never showed up.

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7 comments for “Who needs a man to have a baby?”

  1. Families headed by mothers is nothing new. Fatherless families are nothing new. What’s new is women choosing to have families without having a partner. It will bring about a new generation of men and women who have no doubt that women are strong and capable — adults who rever the mothers who raised them and had them because they wanted to, and for no other reason.

    It’s a personal choice that some women are lucky to be able to make today.

    Posted by Kvetch | November 7, 2007, 1:19 am
  2. I used to feel angry when I heard comments like this but it didn’t take too long for me to realize that the men who made disparaging comments about my single motherhood must feel uneasy at the thought that I could do it all without them. Who can blame them?

    Posted by FeeFiFoto | November 7, 2007, 1:31 am
  3. You two rock. I’m glad to know that I’m in the company of such smart, articulate mamas.

    Yes, who can blame these guys for feeling like they got picked last for the relay team?

    Posted by singlemomseeking | November 7, 2007, 2:11 am
  4. Hey, I love this website. You and your daughter are quite beautiful, too! Since I’m not on Babycenter now, I can be snarky. How about I start with “Mr. Sacks has probably not been laid for a long time.” or perhaps you can change your theme to “Single Mom NOT Seeking Mr. Sacks for fun in the sack.”

    Posted by andreapaventi | November 7, 2007, 2:39 am
  5. I am so disappointed to have missed the opportunity to appear with Louise on the Mike and Juliet Show. She handled herself with grace, wit, and dignity. Glenn Sacks was the typical “fathers’ rights” kind of guy . Minimally equipped.

    Glenn Sacks: We rock; he does not.

    It’s amazing that we are still struggling to explain the difference between a biological father (sperm donor) and a “daddy” (a constant loving presence in a child’s life).

    Louise’s little guy is gorgeous.

    Posted by Dr. Leah | November 7, 2007, 12:48 pm
  6. For years and years women have looked to men to determine when they can start a family and become mothers. Men like Mr. Sacks think women are lucky if a man deigns to marry them out of the wretched singleness. They’ve become conditioned to that. They can’t get used to the fact that now, men need women to have children and women can do it alone. It’s a whole new world for them. Men now have to make an effort to add value. They don’t like it.

    My point of view: it’s all about added value. It would be lovely to have a man, but only if he makes my life better. My life’s pretty good now, no reason to subtract by adding.

    Posted by g8grl | November 7, 2007, 5:52 pm
  7. Although I am not a single mother, I am a mother and woman and I take offense at any man thinking that women can’t do it on their own. Why does it always have to be us vs them, be it single moms vs these crazy men, or working moms vs stay at home moms, etc… isn’t the bottom line that we are all in this world, doing the very best we can, trying to raise the best kids who will go on to do the same when they become adults? It’s not a contest because there are not winners, especially when people like this guy try to set it up so there are only losers.

    Posted by minivan diaries | November 7, 2007, 8:28 pm

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