I realize that very few women fall into this category: dating while lactating. (Ah, yes, that was quite an experience, let me tell you…)
At BabyCenter.com this week, I’m asking for breastfeeding mamas to speak up.
You see, I’m writing an essay for a forthcoming anthology called Got (Breast) Milk: The Pleasures, Pains, and Politics of Breastfeeding, (Harvard Common Press, Spring 2009). I want to know: if you’re breastfeeding, how do you you feel about your breasts? Are they for baby-only? Are they off-limits to the man in our life?
One mama who recently weaned says that her partner “was very willing: to share her breasts with the baby…. “He feels secure about his place.”
But another mama says that her man “was freaked out about the ‘leaking’ aspect of things. ”
Yet another mom says that her breasts are off-limits: “We had an intimate moment recently when I wasn’t wearing a bra and he was a little weirded out…”
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I realize that the number of women who breastfeed and date simultaneously are probably few and far between. (If you are one of them — like I was — do tell!)
I’m curious…. about how women feel about their breasts when they’re intimate. Feel free to post on BabyCenter.com anonymously!
BTW, this cover of Babytalk magazine in August 2006, which features a nursing baby, offended many readers. How do you feel about it?
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seems so silly. its life, giving life. beautiful. share and enjoy.
Thank you for that… and the First Comment from a man, nonetheless. Bravo.
Why are people so freaked out by the picture of a naked breast and woman breastfeeding her child — especially on a magazine cover about *babies*? I didn’t nurse for long with either of my children and did go to the bottle. (I lasted a little longer with my son.) But never once did I feel offended by seeing someone who nursed. No one likes people to preach and I know many women get upset that they are looked down on for not breastfeeding. But to react in general like that is crazy. We have breasts for a reason — and it’s not to pose in Playboy (although, hey, I’m liberal, do whatever you want!)
I can’t wait to read it.
I think it’s a beautiful picture. What’s to get offended about?
I get more offended when I go to NYC and see porn magazine covers blatantly displayed for all to see. I’d rather my children see a picture like the breastfeeding mother any day.
I think the photo is beautiful. I so miss my breastfeeding days.
Well, me being a man and all I can only imagine what people (women) might think about a mans perspective. I don’t have a problem with a woman breast feeding in public. But I do beleive that there are a time and a place for everything. I know that situations dictate what she should do as far as where and when. As long as the women can be discrete and not make it overly obvious what she is doing then I have absolutely no problem with it. But she should take in consideration that there would be young children and teenagers around so as not to cause a scene to onlookers. I am a working class professional in the Healthcare field. If my wife needed to breastfeed our child in public I beleive that she would seek out a restroom or some inconspicous place to feed the child, but if one was not available she would at least have a blanket available to concele herself from the public. That is just my opion. I know it is just one of many out there. As far as the photo on the magizine I have no problem with it. After all there are worse magizines out there that depict even a worse image. This is a great blog and I agree with the man in the first post it is just a fact of life and people just need to get over themselves.
Phil- even your wife would likely agree that you’re an idiot. If- that is- she has ever breast fed a child. The simple fact is: it’s not up to anybody else to decide where and when it’s appropriate for a woman to breast feed besides the woman herself. I cover with a blanket so it doesn’t make anyone too uncomfortable, then I breast feed my child at the most convienient time- not neccessarily place- with pride. (I relish staring right back into the eyes of disapproving onlookers, they always look away with such haste.) The coverphoto shows the connection between mother and child quite transparently and is beautiful.
Marion
WOW Marion! Nothing Phil said was unreasonable or offensive. He said he thinks being discrete is best and frankly I agree. Nothing wrong with breast feeding, I was breast feed, but my mom didn’t just whip it out and glare at folks. I get the impression from your comments that you seem to enjoy the reaction of other people more then the bond with your child. Perhaps your need for exhibitionism and being the center of attention leads you to call people idiots when they basically agree with breast feeding, just not turning a moment of privacy between mother and child into an excuse for some to get there kicks off of.