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Single Dad Needs Halloween Help
This is hot from a Seattle single mama list-serve that I’m on. Direct from Craig’s List:
“Single Dad, Halloween Help”
Wondered if there might be a single mom or single lady willing to help me make a costume for my kid. In the process I think we could have a harmless meet and greet. I have been told, and personally believe myself to be a great catch. I am tall, smart, good looking, funny, athletic, and get this… A NICE GUY. Yeah hard to believe but its true. I would love to find someone that can first and foremost.. help with the costume. For a LTR… well you’d hafta be a good catch. Good catches come in all different forms, but you’d know if you are or are not. Hell I’d settle for another good friend if we don’t as they say “click”. Hope to hear from you soon
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Well, single moms, what do you think? Would you respond to this guy? Why? Why not?
Some of the single moms on the list agreed that it took a lot of guts for this guy to post this ad. Asking for help isn’t always easy — and he certainly gets points for creativity. Do you think his add is cute? … and funny?
A couple of moms, however, were turned off. “It seems very manipulative,” one mama says. “If you are looking for a friend, ask for a friend. If you are looking for a mate, ask for a mate. If you want a seamstress, ask for a seamstress.”
“The whole idea of this way to meet a woman is bizarre,” says another mama. “He’s doing that trick where men use cute things to lure women. “Oh poor me, I am alone and helpless with my child and just need a good woman to help us” approach.
What do you say?
In the meantime, we get creative around here for Halloween… Lucky I have some single mom friends who sew, right? (Because I don’t!) Here’s little Mae and friend Celia.
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Mmm, I don’t know. I think the whole “I need help” bit is coming off (to me) as a ploy to get around doing what every single or coupled or married mother has to deal with every year — schlepping to the party store for a costume or figuring it out on her own. (Personally, I’m all for schlepping.) And if it’s a cute ploy to get a date, that doesn’t come through because as someone said: he’s not very committed to finding someone other than a pal or a seamstress. Maybe it’s his word choices, or maybe I’m crabby tonight (because I have to worry about my own kids’ costumes!) but it doesn’t do it for me. We have enough mothering to do as it is.
And I love the pumpkin head costume!
Add me to the ‘crass and manipulative’ camp. In other words, if you’re not quite the catch you think you are? He’ll ’settle’ for your friendship - but only after you bail him out with a Halloween costume and have an ego to match his own.
Uh…no thanks.
Yeah, he kind of comes off like “I’m so awesome and you might even get the chance to date me, but first you have to make my kid a costume. Because that’s what you women are good for… sewing.” But maybe I’m jaded. Ha.
I hear you mamas!
I was put off by this fellow, too…. He could’ve made this really sweet and genuine by saying something like, “I’d love some help with my kid’s costume and in return, I’ll supply you with a Halloween stash of your favorite candy. Do you prefer Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups or Jolly Ranchers?”
You know what - he seemed like a “regular guy” to me - and I’d answer. Also, what have you got to lose? You have as much control as he does - you might go and not like him, right? Or you can leave. But if he’s nice… they that’s a plus. Never know ’til you take that chance, I always say…
I truly believe he was being sincere, while trying to throw in a bit of humor to jazz up his message. He does seem a slight bit sure of himself, but there’s nothing wrong with that if he can back it up AND knows how to treat a woman. And as Amy says, what have you got to lose? You never know unless you try! As far as wanting a “good catch”, who doesn’t? As well, good catches come in all shapes, sizes, and forms. He doesn’t specifically say that it’s looks he’s after, he does at least offer the possibility of friendship, rather than acting as if he only wants hot babes to respond to him. I don’t get the costume issue (since as mentioned he should be able to BUY one) or call upon someone around him for assistance (e.g., a family member, colleague, neighbor, etc.) but I’m thinking that was his ploy. I’m personally not offended, but I wouldn’t respond to him, either!
1) I’m not fond of personal ads
2) I’m too darn busy with my kid and other issues in life
I do like Rachel’s sweet and genuine suggested response, and I do agree that something more subtle and down to earth would be more effective, if he’s truly looking to meet a nice woman.