Dating

Are You Yourself Online?…. Is He?

When my column about Jdate ran this summer in San Francisco’s J Weekly– ‘Just be yourself’ — take it from a JDate expert– it annoyed some readers.

My editor had assigned me to interview David Siminoff, the Chairman of the Board of Directors for Spark Networks. (Off the record, Siminoff has never tried online dating.)

Ben Pastcan, of Sacramento, for instance, wrote in a Letter to the Editor:

“…after many of my own failed attempts at JDate, I have found very few people try to follow what the interviewee suggests, ‘Be yourself.’One would guess if they subscribed to JDate they might find somebody Jewish. Not everybody on JDate is Jewish (they have the vague ‘will tell you later’ and ‘another ethnic’ sections, which could mean a number of questions to contemplate). Also, in terms of distance, the reality is that one has to travel very far on these dates (up to even 160 miles, as they suggest).

Yes, JDate may be one way of meeting single people, but to me, it contradicts a main tenet of Judaism, which is a way of life based on trust and humility.”

Well said. But what do Jewish single moms have to say about Jdate? (Let’s hear from you!)

Amy over at Kvetch Blog, wrote to me in an email: “It’s a crazy JDate world out there!”

She sent me: Top Ten Reasons To Take Yourself Off JDate

10. $34.99 is really too much for one month of emails from someone who calls himself HandsomeJewBoy62

9. Profiles that say 49 are really 54 year old men who want to date women who are 34

8. The system leaves profiles active even if the owner hasn’t logged in in 3.5 years

7. The selection of prewritten ‘winks’ has not changed in five years.

6. Too many men check “Religion - Other.” It means “some of my best friends are Jewish”

5. Your ex’s new girlfriend can easily find you ‘by accident’

4. Checking “Drinks - Not at all” is now code for recovering alcoholic.

3. You’ll be exhausted from long walks on the beach after dinner and good conversation.

2. You’ll tire of dating men who look good in jeans AND a tuxedo.

and…the Number One reason to take yourself off JDate…

1. Because if Jewish 5′8″ is really 5′6″, you really don’t want to know what Jewish 6″ is.

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Thanks Ben and Amy…. Let’s hear from the rest of you!

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