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These days, there are so many single parents blogging about what it’s like to date again. But how often do you run into two single parent bloggers who are telling the world — independently — what it’s like to be in a relationship with each other?

Well, let me introduce you to Todd and Kelly. I’ve been following the blogs of this incredibly sweet, goofy couple for years now. I’ve been following them so closely, in fact, that sometimes I have to remind myself that, no, I’ve never met them in person. Because when you check out their blogs, you’ll see why you feel like you know them.

Their story is such a tender one, layered with crossing paths and a break up that neither of them could endure. No, they didn’t meet each other online dating in Canada on a site like eHarmony. In 2008, Kelly, the mom of two daughters, was struggling with a deep unhappiness in her marriage when she stumbled across Todd’s blog via a friend from college. 

“He was a single dad, a nice guy, with great musical taste and a sense of humour that I could definitely relate to,” Kelly says. “Oh – and cute, too.”

Then, Kelly’s marriage ended. And there she was, readingTodd’s blog  — as “an anonymous stalker,” she says. She loved Todd’s posts about visiting his kids. And she sympathized with him when he wrote about having an emotionally rough time.

It was Kelly who got up the courage to send a “friend request” to Todd on Facebook. He accepted. (Good move Todd!)

“It just snowballed from there,” Kelly says. “Who knew that this adorable, funny, 80s-tunes-loving geek would be such a fantastic flirt?” They talked for hours and hours and “I experienced an instant click on a level that I have never experienced with another person before.”

They dated long-distance for three months. And then, they broke up. “I was too fresh out of my marriage and did not have my act together,” Kelly says.

Todd had to face some fears, too. They both tried to move on, but this only made them realize who much they loved each other. A few months later, after spending a weekend together without any expectations or promises, they redefined “our relationship for the better.”

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On August 11 — with their five children and cheesy 80′s music — Todd and Kelly will be getting married on the rooftop of their local farmer’s market! (The photo above was taken when Todd proposed.)

Kelly lost her father when she was a teenager, so she asked Todd’s father “to walk me down the aisle. He was thrilled!”

Todd — who is the father of one son and two daughters — recently moved across the country into Kelly’s home. “It’s been an adjustment, to be sure,” he says. “I’ve been living by myself for 5+ years and had only lived with single person before that, so I’ve had to make a lot of changes to my daily routine.”

Which includes sharing one bathroom with the three females in the household.

“But it hasn’t been nearly as difficult as I thought it would be,” Todd says. After all, he says that Kelly is the woman he was searching for all his life.

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“I love waking up next to him every morning,” says Kelly. “Since we didn’t have that for so long, I feel like we both appreciate it a lot more than some other couples might. The most challenging thing for me is learning to compromise and give up a little bit of my independence for the sake of our relationship.”

Right now, these two lovebirds are busy writing their own vows. Oh, and planning theme nights for their family. On “Movie Mondays,” they watch a film while having dinner. On “Tech Off Night,” they turn off all electronics to play board games. And on “Family Dessert Night,” one person gets to pick a place to go for dessert. Doesn’t it make you want to join this sweet family?

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